When I was 19 years old I took my youngest brother boating on a nearby pleasure lake. He was only six and as I rowed across the shallow water he became quite scared. I stopped rowing and explained that because this was the first time he had been in a boat, the rocking was completely different from anything he had experienced before. But actually there was no real danger: the boat wasn’t tipping over as he was afraid it might do and even if we did fall in the water it was so shallow that we could easily walk to shore and dry off. Once he got used to it, the rocking of the little boat could even turn out to be fun!
These times of churning can often seem like this: the changes we face are different from anything we have experienced before. But usually there is no real danger. (If there is, the later tools of Inner Leadership will show us how to identify that and what to do about it.) So the first step, the first essential skill for leading ourselves through times of change, is to learn to centre and ground ourselves like my brother did: to regain our balance in the rocking. Then we will be able to decide (calmly) whether the danger is real and what we are going to do about it. And then we can learn other skills that let us turn this time of churning into an opportunity for fun, enjoyment, and personal growth.
But the first essential step is to centre and ground ourselves at will.
Do you ever find yourself being pushed off-centre by the changes that are happening around us? Would you like to improve your ability to centre and ground?
Adapted from Inner Leadership: tools for building inspiration in times of change.
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