Unwanted emotions can be useful


When we are churning we can often feel anger, fear, sadness, or even emptiness and numbness.

But these emotions can be transformed.

When we know how to centre and ground ourselves, focus on who we are and what we want instead of the current situation, then we can transform these emotions into something that will help us change the situation:

  • Anger can be turned into passion:
    Energy to change whatever we are angry about.
  • Fear can be turned into courage:
    Determination to change the situation we are in and achieve the vision of what we want instead.
  • Sadness, emptiness and numbness can become joy and a feeling of being fully alive:
    Sadness is about loss. Feeling sad is a signal that we have lost something important. If we get clear on what that is then we can grieve, acknowledge the loss and let it go. Then we can focus on rebuilding it in a new form. This is what brings us joy. Because joy and exhilaration are not a static state they are the process of achievement. Joy is not lying on a beach it is splashing in the waves, or skiing down the mountain. Flow comes when we lose track of time: not waiting for the bus to come but working hard at whatever you have decided is the most important thing for you.

Aliveness is the feeling we get when we are working to achieve our goals. Asking what we feel sad about provides focus to know what those goals are. Anger provides the energy to achieve them. Fear provides the determination to try.

The emotions we get during these times of churning are not who we are. They are signposts showing us that we want something different from what we have. They point to what we care about, and enable us to achieve it.

The inner leadership half of the churning provides seven steps for transforming emotions to create an inspiring vision of what we want instead. Outer leadership provides seven steps for bringing that vision into reality.

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