Overcoming fear

Woman, flying through the air with arms outstretchedIn times of change there are three main reasons we can sometimes get stuck. The first two are overthinking the situation and not knowing who we want to become. The third is simply when we feel afraid.

In a churning world, all ways forward will be unpredictable. We can’t know the outcomes and we will probably have to change direction again in the future. Not knowing whether we will succeed, it is easy to feel afraid.

But as Nelson Mandela is often quoted as saying:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”

Whether we feel afraid to fail or afraid to succeed, our playing small does not serve the world. It does not serve the people around us. And most of all it does not serve us.

We each have a unique set of talents and a unique way of applying them. When we step forward to find the place where our skills fit best then we bring the most value to the world. We do the most for the people we care most about. And we become the best versions of ourselves. We experience the most flow and the most fun. We fully express who we are.

The fact is that the increasing range of challenges we face is providing an increasing range of opportunities for someone to step into.

What Inner Leadership provides is a set of tools for each of us to connect deeply with who we are, what we do best, and what we care most about in the world. (You might call this your ‘purpose’.) It shows us how best to move forward, starting from where we are now, and how to inspire ourselves and other people to want to make that happen. Inner Leadership also brings us the tools to be able swivel or pivot when we inevitably need to change direction again in future.

If we can find the best way forward for us now, and know that we will able to do so again in future, what reason is there to feel afraid?

If fear is keeping you stuck now, what’s the worst that could happen if you do nothing? What’s the best that could happen if you do something? And between these two extremes, how will you find the best way forward for you now?


Adapted from Inner Leadership: tools for building inspiration in times of change.

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