As you work to bring your change into the world, some people will inevitably tell you that you’re doing it wrong. They’ll say you’re too early or too late, too simple or too complicated, too shallow or too deep, going about it in the wrong way, in the wrong place, with the wrong people at the wrong time.
Listen to them, thank them, and then do it anyway.
And before you do that, remember that it has taken you your whole life to come to the insights and understanding you have now and it has taken them their whole life to come to theirs. So the fact that you have different viewpoints might mean one of four things:
- They are far ahead of you in the way they understand the world, and the changes you are suggesting are no longer relevant to them. (Which likely means they are encouraging you to move forward faster.)
- They are far behind you and not yet ready to understand the changes you are suggesting. (In that case, what would it take for them to catch up? How long would that take and how much effort would it require from you? Is that a priority for you?)
- They are exactly the people you are trying to influence but they do not understand the way you are communicating your vision. (So listen, learn, and adapt your message to make it more relevant to them.)
- They are simply on a different path. They are headed towards a different purpose with different values. (Your work will never be relevant for them so don’t try to force it.)
What seems like ‘negative’ feedback is always an opportunity: either to save wasted time or to improve your message still further.
So when someone brings you feedback listen, thank them, and then do it anyway: either the same as you were doing before, or in a new and improved way.
Has someone given you what seems like ‘negative’ feedback recently? Is that feedback an opportunity for you to improve what you are doing, to become more of who you want to become? Or should you simply ignore it?
Adapted from Inner Leadership: tools for building inspiration in times of change.
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