Today I thought that rather than writing a blog I would use video, so I went out into the very beautiful (but rather chilly) Oxfordshire countryside to talk about Chapter 7 of Inner Leadership.
The news is full of stories at the moment about things that didn’t turn out the way people expected. Chapter 7 is all about how do we manage our psychological and emotional reactions when that happens, and keep going towards our objectives.
It contains a number of tools and frameworks grouped into three distinct stages.
The first stage is to stop looking back at the past, wishing that things were still the way they used to be, and turn to face the future. This is called Separation.
Key tools here are to give thanks for the way the world used to be, to focus on the vision you want to build instead, and then hold some kind of ritual to mark the ending of the old and the beginning of the new.
The second stage is called the Threshold stage: crossing the threshold into the future. Here the past has gone but it is not yet clear what the future is going to hold so this can be a time of fear and uncertainty. Key tools here are the ability to centre and ground, from Chapter 1, and also your values from Chapter 5. If you know what your values are then it becomes easier to respond when things don’t go as expected, because you can say, “These are my values, this is how I am going to behave, no matter what happens around me.”
And finally, the third stage is Incorporation as you work to make your vision a reality. Here the key is to ensure good communication and alignment between the different people working to achieve the vision. A key tool for achieving that is to know your shared purpose. Because if you all know your purpose then when something doesn’t go according to plan you can easily find a new way to achieve the same purpose. When something happens it doesn’t change where you want to get to it only changes how you get there.
Have a great weekend.